Living Life Deliberately
Ted Bundy lived a deliberate life – an ugly, evil, horror-inflicting life – but a deliberate one all the same. I recently watched the Netflix series “Confessions of a Killer: The Ted Bundy Tapes” where the voice of Ted Bundy was played over and over. It was clear that he was organised, meticulous and living his life with malicious intent. It was chilling to listen to a man who, despite murdering at least 30 women, showed no guilt until it was clear he would be executed – then he showed remorse only at the loss of his own life.
Living life deliberately has a serious impact on ourselves and on those around us – for good or for evil. Living life deliberately is about living with determination, acting out our values and having a clear direction.
At some point in most people’s journey, life seems to just happen to us. We are pushed around by life. We are living life on automatic. Sometimes this is about living in survival mode. At some point in life we are all faced with a choice – either we continue living without direction and become apathetic and careless in our life decisions, or we begin to live deliberately at least in some areas of our lives.
Living life deliberately is about seizing control of our choices notwithstanding the limitations of our life circumstance. Choices come in many forms. We can choose where we focus our time, our money and our energy for example. Living life deliberately can be as simple as turning off the TV to go for a walk to improve our health, and it can be as complex as purposefully leaving our tragic past circumstances behind us, refusing to let the past define our future. Living life deliberately can be found in doing a household budget to ensure we can pay off our debts, and in crafting a new, more fulfilling career path for ourselves. Living life deliberately involves conscious, proactive decision making. It involves putting our energy into what we can change rather than despairing and obsessing about what we cannot.
After watching the Ted Bundy series, I was thinking about historical figures I could use to illustrate a deliberately good life, but I came up with examples of people I know who inspire me instead - ordinary people who do extraordinary things despite their life circumstance. I thought of the mother who chose to have her child when faced with an unexpected pregnancy, despite the opposition from those around her. She lives her life deliberately – embracing life for her child and motherhood for herself. And I thought of the fathers who get together to play football and support each other in memory of one of their number who died from suicide. These men have made a deliberate commitment to ensure that no one in their social group will ever feel that suicide is their only way out again. This woman and these men live deliberate lives, lives with vision and hope, and lives which impact those around them.
This week, I encourage you to think about your own life – what decisions can you make which will help you seize control of your own destiny and live the rest of your life deliberately?
Until next time,
1.This is not a recommendation to watch this series. Only watch it if you are prepared for the confrontational nature of the content.